Friday, August 9, 2013

Mirror, Mirror, on the Wall... What do YOU see?

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Do you remember the evil witch from the Walt Disney classic "Snow White and the Seven Dwarfs". She possessed a magic mirror and every day she would ask -

"Mirror, mirror on the wall, who is the fairest of them all?"

The mirror would always tell her that she was, at least until Snow White came into the picture.

The power of our image

Seeing myself as a sick person

I used to get a lot of compliments on my professionalism at work, both in my conduct and appearance. I thought I had found a way to leverage those skills and abilities by teaching them. I attended the prestigious Protocol School of Washington, in DC to earn my certificate as a Corporate Etiquette and International Protocol Consultant. When I returned, I made certain that my conduct and my wardrobe reflected what I was promoting. When I looked in the mirror, my question was always "Who is the most professional of them all?" I liked to think I was!

Where do you get your worth and value?

I took tremendous pride in the image I had created; but that's all it was - an image. I still had not learned the dangers of trying to feel good about myself through the approval of others. Even though I looked good on the outside, my eyes only saw darkness. 

The eye is the lamp of the body

If you tend to see the negative side of things, including yourself, then your world will be full of darkness. The more you focus on the negative, the darker your world will be (see this bible study to learn more).

How you do anything...

Does this mean that we shouldn't bother to look our best? Absolutely not! Taking care of ourselves and doing what we can to look our best shows that we value who we are - God's creation! Taking care of yourself only gets into a danger zone when you place all your hope, dreams, and self-worth on what you look like.

I heard this saying once, and I believe it is very true -
"How you do anything is how you do everything."

If you don't make an effort in your appearance, chances are you won't make an effort in other areas of your life. Living in constant pain can make our appearance seem irrelevant. Think of it this way, don't you deserve to look at yourself in the mirror and feel good about the person looking back at you? I'm not talking about vanity or ego. I am talking respecting yourself and valuing yourself enough to look the best you can in a healthy balanced way.

If you feel you have let yourself go, don't beat yourself up. I too have days when I barely have the energy to get out of bed, let alone have a shower and blow dry my hair! I am also 10 lbs heavier since developing Chronic Fatigue Syndrome. As my muscles atrophy, and age and gravity do the rest, I find it very hard to like what I now see in the mirror. Thankfully, I also have standards that I will not sink below; but boy there are days when I would love to throw in the towel completely and live in an endless bowl of buttered popcorn!

Looking forward

Philippians 3:13 - Forgetting what lies behindThe more I am willing to let go of the past, the easier it gets for me to accept my new reality. Yes, I make an effort to look the best I can, but I am now more focused on the person I want to be, rather than striving for outward perfection.


Are you prepared to let go what lies behind? What barriers are you facing? If you have been able to make that shift, what helped you move forward?