Tuesday, March 4, 2014

Fact, Fiction, or Somewhere in Between

I recently came across two very interesting blog posts. They both dealt with a similar issue.

Image crafting

According to the article I read on Whole9, image crafting is -
"the act of carefully and deliberately constructing one’s social media content to control the way others view their life."
Have you ever read someones Facebook page and wondered if they lived in the land of rainbows and sunshine ALL the time?? We don't want the world to see the less than perfect side of our life (or ourselves), so we go to elaborate lengths to make it sound like we have it all together. Sorry folks, but there is no such thing as the perfect life because we live in an imperfect world. 

I have attended chronic pain support groups were we were not allowed to complain - at all. I tried to understand and even justify their logic. Certainly, no one wants to go to a support group meeting and end up feeling worse at the end of it! However, having this all-or-nothing rule made me feel like I had to plaster a fake smile on my face, and figure out how to put a positive spin on my ever worsening pain. Instead of feeling encouraged, I felt like I had failed somehow.

Everything happens for a reason

I used to be a rather negative person. Then, after years of diligent effort, I learned to look for the silver lining in bad situations. However, bring in lots of life stuff topped off with chronic health issues, and this idealistic attitude just didn't fly. Not that worrying or complaining has helped either, but surely there must be some middle ground!

A friend sent me this blog post. I love how the author puts "everything happens for a reason" into perspective. I found her honesty refreshing and somehow liberating.

Image is not everything

This is not a statement you would expect to hear from a trained corporate etiquette consultant. I have spent most of my life trying to recreate myself, to project a stellar image - all the while being a spectacular mess inside. Then I tried to teach others to do the same! What's that saying about the blind leading the blind?

I don't know about you, but I learn the most from people who are willing to share their brokenness, as well as how they learned to live victoriously through it all. I appreciate their courage and their humanity. 

Get real

Let's agree that we will stop plastering fake smiles on our faces and creating mythical lives that no one can live up to! How do we do this without turning into a bunch of whiners?
  1. Acknowledge when you are struggling with something
  2. Ask for help and/or prayer
  3. Hope - always hope, and pray - always!
  4. Don't complaining about it!!
OK, #4 is a tough one, but I'll get there and so will you.

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Is your life based on fact or fiction? Would you be willing to share your true self with others? What steps could you take today to begin that process?


So get rid of all malicious behavior and deceit. Don't just pretend to be good! Be done with hypocrisy and jealousy and backstabbing. 1 Peter 2:1

So I pray that God, who gives you hope, will keep you happy and full of peace as you believe in him. May you overflow with hope through the power of the Holy Spirit.
Romans 15:13